I am 66 years old and have seen, heard, lived enough life to realize that if people would STOP looking for ways to be normal and cease preaching about what THEY think normal is or should be, they would be able to enjoy an optimal life, a bit stress-free, less hassle with people, less judgmental of other people and themselves, with more love, unconditional acceptance. I have learned that conflict arises because they all refer to their own book of "spostas", (supposed to's) and their emotions go nutzoid when there is a "violation"...….thing is, everyone's book of SPOSTAS is different. There are no 2 books alike and we haven't read everyone's else's book of SPOSTA's. Why would be? Our own book is the SPOSTA bible, right? LOL Can anyone reading this tell us what SPOSTA's you have, that when "violated" gets you bent outta shape?