Stop thinking there is enough time left! I have searched from the time I was around 13-15 years of age, wondering if I was going to be one of the lucky ones who grew up and became happy and fulfilled, with a career that had value, a family of my own, eg wife who loved me, a couple of kids.....Life - I never felt my destiny was in any part of my control, but I perceived others as designing just the kind of life they wanted. My thoughts were filled with wishes and hopes. I never thought of those as being the very blocks and barricades that eventually would seem to frustrate me and cause me to look at myself as a virtual failure with a life thus far full of evidence as to why "I can't". Wishes and hopes, traced backwards to a set of forming beliefs as to my inadequacy, my logic convincing me that I will never be like one of "those guys" in Jr High and High School who seemed to have it all - the seeds of greatness. Depression was the result of the growth of weed...
I am 66 years old and have seen, heard, lived enough life to realize that if people would STOP looking for ways to be normal and cease preaching about what THEY think normal is or should be, they would be able to enjoy an optimal life, a bit stress-free, less hassle with people, less judgmental of other people and themselves, with more love, unconditional acceptance. I have learned that conflict arises because they all refer to their own book of "spostas", (supposed to's) and their emotions go nutzoid when there is a "violation"...….thing is, everyone's book of SPOSTAS is different. There are no 2 books alike and we haven't read everyone's else's book of SPOSTA's. Why would be? Our own book is the SPOSTA bible, right? LOL Can anyone reading this tell us what SPOSTA's you have, that when "violated" gets you bent outta shape?